The one from Emode and another from Queendom QueenDom
Although they were taken at totally different times, you will see they bear some similarities :)
At one point I ran into a site with all kind of
tests; www.emode.com.
Below are the results which depict my EQ on July 20th 2000.
(My guess is that your EQ changes over time so it might be of
importance to know when I took this test)
The test, results and explanation(s) are created by Ilona Jerabek
with
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Below are two results;
The one from Emode and another from Queendom
QueenDom
Although they were taken at totally different times, you will see
they bear some similarities :)
There is no arguing that classical IQ, as measured by most intelligence tests, is important in our personal, academic, and professional success. However, emotional intelligence matters as much as the classical IQ. One could almost say that emotional intelligence is a prerequisite for the proper development and actualization of our other intellectual abilities.
Simply put, we need to learn to recognize and label our feelings and needs, reconcile them with our long-term goals and with the needs and feelings of other people involved. And we need to cultivate the ability to identify ways of meeting our goals and needs and to soothe our own feelings. Then, we need to motivate ourselves and mobilize all our internal (energy, effort, discipline, perseverance, resilience) as well as external resources (building social networks through effective communication, social insight, empathy, reading other's emotions, setting boundaries).
Overall score: 126 points
(population mean = 100; SD = 15; min = 30; max = 145)
Behavioral aspect: 124 points
(population mean = 100; SD = 15; min = 37; max = 144)
Knowledge aspect: 123 points
(population mean = 100; SD = 15; min = 37; max = 131)
Your Emotional IQ is excellent - much higher than average. That means that, in general, you express your feelings directly and with good timing. You are optimistic and positive, and adapt well to changed circumstances. You deal effectively with stress, interact, and communicate adequately. You are comfortable with yourself (including your sensuality and playfulness); you know and appreciate your talents and strong points as well as your weaknesses. You are able to motivate yourself, find the energy and the strength necessary to complete what you want or need done. You are one of the resilient people who bounce back after major drawbacks, survive hardship without bitterness, and still manage to give to others.
You seem to have mastered quite a bit of the theoretical knowledge necessary for full development of your emotional intellect. There is still room for improvement, though. The good news is that you can do something about it, even if you are a mature grown-up. And you can start right away!
Start with identifying your problem areas. Paying attention to your interactions with other people and to your self-talk is a good launching point, as is asking your friends and partner what bothers them about your behavior. Try to really listen, without being judgmental and defensive. Read some books about emotional intelligence, communication skills, social skills, stress/anxiety/anger management, self-esteem and self-growth in general (see the recommended books below). Enlist the help of a psychologist, your life partner, parents or/and a good, honest friend. You will be amazed at how good, strong and happy you will feel.
Emotional IQ
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Your Emotional IQ is excellent - much higher than
average.
That means that, in general, you express your feelings directly
and with good timing.
You are optimistic and positive, and adapt well to changed
circumstances.
You deal effectively with stress, interact well, and communicate
adequately.
You are comfortable with yourself, and that includes your
sensuality and playfulness.
You know and appreciate your talents and strong points as well as
your weaknesses.
You are able to motivate yourself, find the energy and the
strength necessary to complete what you want or need done.
You are one of the resilient people who bounce back after major
drawbacks, survive hardship without bitterness, and still manage
to give to others.
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There is no arguing that classical IQ, as measured by most intelligence tests, is important in our personal, academic, and professional success. However, emotional intelligence matters as much as the classical IQ. One could almost say that emotional intelligence is a pre-requisite for the proper development and actualisation of our other intellectual abilities.
Simply put, we need to learn to recognise and label our feelings and needs, reconcile them with our long-term goals and with the needs and feelings of other people involved. And we need to cultivate the ability to identify ways of meeting our goals and needs and to soothe our own feelings. Then, we need to motivate ourselves and mobilise all our internal (energy, effort, discipline, perseverance, resilience) as well as external resources (building social networks through effective communication, social insight, empathy, reading other's emotions, setting boundaries).
Emotional IQ
less intelligent more intelligent
Behavioral
less intelligent more intelligent
Knowledge
less intelligent more intelligent
Your Emotional IQ is excellent - much higher than
average.
That means that, in general, you express your feelings directly
and with good timing.
You are optimistic and positive, and adapt well to changed
circumstances.
You deal effectively with stress, interact well, and communicate
adequately.
You are comfortable with yourself, and that includes your
sensuality and playfulness.
You know and appreciate your talents and strong points as well as
your weaknesses.
You are able to motivate yourself, find the energy and the
strength necessary to complete what you want or need done.
You are one of the resilient people who bounce back after major
drawbacks, survive hardship without bitterness, and still manage
to give to others.
You seem to have mastered quite a bit of the
theoretical knowledge necessary for full development of your
emotional intellect.
There is still room for improvement, though. The good news is
that you can do something about it, even if you are a mature
grown-up. And you can start right away!
Start with identifying your problem areas.
Paying attention to your interactions with other people and to
your self-talk is a good launching point, as is asking your
friends and partner what bothers them about your behavior. Try to
really listen, without being judgmental and defensive. Read some
books about emotional intelligence, communication skills, social
skills, stress/anxiety/anger management, self-esteem and
self-growth in general (see the recommended books below). Enlist
the help of a psychologist, your life partner, parents or/and a
good, honest friend. You will be amazed at how good, strong and
happy you will feel.
Most of us consider intelligence as a purely intellectual process, but recent research asks whether it doesn't combine both the head and the heart. In the late 1980s, Peter Salovey of Yale University and John Mayer of the University of New Hampshire coined the term "emotional intelligence." They were attempting to define a combination of certain human qualities like empathy, self-awareness, and emotional control.
According to Salovey, there are 5 components to emotional intelligence:
Knowing your emotions
The ability to identify emotions and put them into words. To have an emotional vocabulary. Many people feel uncomfortable expressing emotions, in particular negative ones like anger, fear, or jealousy. But ignoring them doesn't make these feelings go away - it just means we aren't communicating with others and ourselves.
Managing your emotions
Emotions can have a life of their own. Once we recognize them, we learn to control them. And they no longer control us. 'Internal' management helps up let go of negative feelings and internalize positive ones. 'External' management is how we turn our emotions into action or behavior.
Inhibiting and motivating your actions
Inhibiting reactions requires discipline, and remembering what your ultimate goal is in any situation. Motivating reactions require knowing what has to be done, and completing it. This skill directly correlates with academic achievement - the better you feel about your abilities, the more self-confident you are, and the more success you have.
Recognizing and validating emotion in others
Empathy; the ability to relate to other people. An emotional connection with others stems from this quality.
Handling relationships well
Involves skill relating to others. There are three components: leadership, being able to negotiate solutions, and connecting personally. Understanding how to connect with others allows you to increase the depth of a relationship, rather than coming across as superficial or controlling.
Emotional intelligence did not receive popular recognition until 1996, however, when a New York Times writer used the term in his book -- Emotional Intelligence , by Daniel Goleman, Ph.D. According to Dr. Goleman, emotional intelligence allows a true understanding of what life teaches us. It's the emotional internalization of knowledge and experience. To feel things, as well as intellectually know them. Knowing something in both the heart and the head lets simple knowledge become wisdom.
As explanation, Goleman (1996) uses the following analogy/anecdote:
A belligerent Samurai once challenged a Zen master to explain the concept of Heaven and Hell. But the monk replied with scorn, saying "You're nothing but a lout, I can't waste my time with the likes of you." His very honor attacked, the Samurai flew into a rage and pulling his sword from its scabbard yelled, "I could kill you for your impertinence." "That," the monk calmly replied, "is Hell."
Startled at seeing the truth the master had pointed out about the fury that had him in its grip, the Samurai calmed down, sheathed his sword and bowed, thanking the monk for the insight.
"And that," the monk replied, "is Heaven."
The monk instructed the Samurai, answered his question, and allowed him to emotionally experience his knowledge all at the same time. Thus, the knowledge became internalized and resulted in wisdom.
Much research has covered the emotional intelligence of children. One particular experiment is considered the original test of emotional intelligence. Walter Mishel of Columbia University designed the experiment in the 1960s, to test the ability to delay gratification. It's known as the "marshmallow test." The experiment determined children's ability to delay satisfaction and then measured what kind of effects this ability would have on their success later in life. Four year-old children were put into a room with a marshmallow on a table. They were told that if they didn't eat the marshmallow before the researcher returned, they would receive two. He then followed the personal and professional progress of these children for the next 20 years. Whoever showed the ability to delay gratification were much more successful in their later schooling and their careers. According to Goleman (1996), self-control in the face of a marshmallow at four was shown to be "twice as powerful a predictor of later academic prowess as IQ."
Research has shown that people with high emotional intelligence tend to do better in life than those with low EQ, even if their traditional IQ scores are lower. This has been attributed to two things: First, people with high EQ scores show more innovation and creativity in problem-solving. Second, people with high EQ scores related to others better than someone with low EQ scores. Emotional and mental flexibility is correlated to success, the results show.
Two big questions remain: can we accurately define and measure emotional intelligence. And can we teach it to those lacking in EQ? These questions frame current debate on the subject.
Additional Reading:
Cooper, R.K. and Sawaf, A. (1997). Executive EQ: Emotional
Intelligence in Leadership and Organization. Perigee
Publishers.
Goleman, D. (1996). Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter
More than IQ. Bantam Books.
Nagy, (1999). How To Raise Your Child's Emotional
Intelligence: 101 Ways to Bring Out the Best in Your Children and
Yourself. Heartfelt Publications.
Ryback, D. (1997). Putting Emotional Intelligence to Work:
Successful Leadership Is More Than IQ. Butterworth-Heinemann
Publishers.
Salovey, P. and Sluyter, D.J. (1997). Emotional Development
and Emotional Intelligence: Educational Implications. NY:
Basic Books.
Segal, J. (1997). Raising Your Emotional Intelligence: A
Practical Guide. Henry Holt Publishers.
Shapiro, L.E. (1998). How to Raise a Child With a High EQ: A
Parent's Guide to Emotional Intelligence. NY: HarperCollins
Publishers.
Simmons, S. and Simmons, J.C. (1997). Measuring Emotional
Intelligence: The Groundbreaking Guide to Applying the Principles
of Emotional Intelligence. Summit Publishing Group.
Steiner, C. and Perry, P. (1997). Achieving Emotional
Literacy: A Personal Program to Increase Your Emotional
Intelligence. NY: Simon & Schuster Publishers.
Weiseinger et. al. (1997). Emotional Intelligence at Work: The
Untapped Edge for Success. NY: Jossey-Bass Publishers.